Find Your Creative G-Spot (Go With The Flow)
Whatever it is you’re feeling or thinking about, just go with the flow. Take inspired action and find your “Creative G-Spot.”
So at the time that I got my dog, Mila, we were living in San Diego, at the Canyonwood Apartments. At the time, I slept in late. Late to bed, late to rise, and my favorite time to be creative was in the evening – usually late at night. But when I got her, that all changed. It started out with the fact that, in the mornings, when she wanted my attention, Mila would wag her tail and bang it against everything.
That’s was how she made noise and got my attention. Unfortunately, she started doing it at 3:30/4:00 in the morning. Consequently, I started having to get up earlier and earlier. Much to the demise of many of my friendships, at the time, I ended up going to bed earlier and earlier. It made for a lot of awkward social adjustments. Strangely, though, I learned I kind of liked getting up earlier.
The Unlikeliest of Friendships
In the morning, when I would take her out, we’d head out back to the potty area. On the way, I had this neighbor Gary, who was about 75 at the time, and he enjoyed getting up early as well. He’d be outside, sitting at his little cafe table next to his apartment, having his dirty chai lattes, smoking his cigarettes, and playing mind games on his iPhone.
So, I’d take Mila out to potty, and then I’d come back, and Gary and I, sometimes not always, would sit there early in the morning, before sunrise, and just sit there and chat. Talk the shit and just share what we were doing for the day. Somehow, it became the most unlikely of friendships. It was one of those friendships in my life that has had a tremendous, and lasting, impact.
Gary was an amazing person. He was a surgeon, a sculptor, a composer, a pilot, and at one point, he had opened a winery. Then, as we became friends, he decided to move back to a small town in Arizona called Tubac to help open an artist residency.
So I joined him, to his invitation, a couple of months later. Initially, just for a weekend visit, it ended up turning into a 3-month stay. I think he just needed help redecorating, reorganizing everything, and cleaning up the house. It was an old house in old town Tubac. (I also think he just enjoy and missed our friendship.)
It was just an amazing, and the most unlikely, friendship. A 75-year-old straight guy in this 35-year-old gay guy – you’d just never think that would happen, but it did. We became great friends.
Finding My “Creative G-Spot”
During that time, my routine shifted, and I got used to waking up early in the morning. I found that my favorite time to be creative were those early hours between 3:30/4:30 am to 7:00/8:00 am. At first, it would drive me bonkers getting up that early every day, I would fight it, and try to go back to bed.
I read all kinds of things online about what it meant, to know if you were getting disrupted sleep, and if it would cause having a non-productive day. I also read that if you have breaks in your sleep, you could just get up, and not fight it. Do something for a while, until you make yourself tired, and then you go back to bed. After a while, what I discovered though, was that my creativity was actually at its best during those early hours.
Just Go With The Flow
So my advice for you today is that as you’re finding your creative flow, whatever your creative endeavor is, just go with it. Don’t fight it. If you wake up in the middle of the night, even if you know you have to get up early in the morning, but you’re feeling inspired: just go with the flow.
Whatever it is you’re feeling or thinking about, take inspired action, and just go with the flow. See what comes out, allow it to happen, and find your “creative g-spot.” Whatever makes you happy, brings you joy, and brings your inspiration – take action. Inspired action, as someone once told me. You may be pleasantly surprised.
It may completely change your friendships, and your routines, but you’ll never know until you take action. Just go with the flow, listen to your heart, and do what brings you joy.
I’m Jason Holland, thank you so much for reading. Of course, if you enjoyed this, please share your thoughts in the comments below (or like, share, and subscribe). Thank you and make it a great week!